Perhaps you will find comfort in the fact that it’s not just you that feels and acts this way. Perhaps you will read this and think I (and those who travel through life as I do) will forever struggle with relationships.
We are a generation of quickly engaged social media and often ignored phone calls. We are a generation that is mostly unsure of what we really want, what we should really value and who we should really give our time to. Of course, this is merely my opinion.
As a guy nowadays, I feel it’s somewhat expected that we aren’t connected with our emotions. In regards to dating, we are expected to play it cool, to be somewhat disconnected and show little interest… It boggles my mind that people are attracted to this.
I have most definitely loved and lost. I’ve been on both sides of the end of a relationship. I’ve spent much time analysing what went or could go wrong. I’ve pushed away those who have loved me dearly and chased those who felt very little for me.
One thing I’m sure of is that I have put my heart and soul into every meaningful relationship I’ve committed to. I have hurt when they have ended and ignored our generation’s propensity to move “onto-the-next”.
For years I fought the urge to be myself, to allow others to see me for me. I refuse to act like I could care less, I care deeply, about everything. I will text you first, I will make plan after plan to see you and I will always tell you how I feel, even if it means giving you the power to crush me.
I believed this made me weak, less of a man, even needy and immature… I now believe it makes me strong. Strong enough to say I will be here for you and follow through. Some will hate it, some will not understand it and that’s ok, It wasn’t meant to be.
Our generation of males need to be better, we must say more, do more and love more. Tell someone you miss them, tell someone you want to see them again. Text first and even better, phone them.
In a world filled with almosts let’s strive to be somebody’s always. Be their peaceful adventure.
Tim is the Founder and Creative Director at Fuel Media Limited, and the passionate lifestyle writer here at To Whom It May Concern. He resides on the beautiful North Shore in Auckland, New Zealand.