Believe me, I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but as the saying goes, this too shall pass. I know the depths of the pain and darkness you find yourself residing in. I understand the confusion and noise that comes with analysing every detail of what has gone wrong, and I too bare similar scars.

The overwhelming emotions that come with life’s downfalls will leave imprints that often last a lifetime. Please know that what you’re feeling is temporary. It may last a day, a week or even years but it will pass and in its place will remain strength, knowledge, and confidence.

The thing I’ve discovered about happiness is that it always comes back, in fact, I believe it’s how we are wired. The trick is allowing it to. We must know when it’s time to accept, forgive, forget and let go of the turmoil. It may always be there but we must move forward and eventually render it powerless.

Though the night may linger, you will find happiness again. Though your wounds may heal slowly, you will find happiness again. Even though it may feel completely hopeless, you most definitely will find happiness again. Eventually, the choice of remaining in the shadows, or stepping into the light, becomes yours. It’s empowering and somewhat astonishing to realise the freedom you hold in that one decision.

As days go by you will awaken slightly happier, you will smile slightly more and laugh a little louder. You will climb into bed at night and start realising the weight on your shoulders is a little less and the ability to breathe is a little easier.

I know this doesn’t mean much to you right now, you are still drowning in the immense noise inside your head. I understand, it’s a process and the truth is it’s going to hurt. Feel it and allow it to wash over you but start heading for the surface as soon as you can. Don’t stay trapped in the past or hung up on the things that weren’t meant to be.

As hard as it is and as horrible as it feels, believe in yourself. You have been here before and likely will be again. Life is teaching you a lesson and as you learn it, understand it and accept it, the pain will fade and a new dawn of renewed contentment, confidence and joy will arrive.

I wish you all the best in your journey and hope that you find relief in knowing you are never alone.

Tim Kavermann

Tim is the Founder and Creative Director at Fuel Media Limited, and the passionate lifestyle writer here at To Whom It May Concern. He resides on the beautiful North Shore in Auckland, New Zealand.